The Book
“Am I broken?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
I’ve been asked those two questions at least a thousand times in my nearly twenty years of working in this field.
From women who are successful CEOs to stay at home soccer moms. From women who are in their twenties and women in their seventies. From women who waited until they said, “I do,” to women who have had countless sexual partners.
The feelings of brokenness and shame don’t discriminate.
And boy, is it a heavy burden to carry.
It’s time to come home to ourselves. To our bodies. To our pleasure. To our power.
I wrote this book so that women would understand WHY they struggle with desiring sex. Why they often don’t love who they see staring back at them in the mirror. Why they feel disconnected from their bodies. Why having sex feels like another thing on their to-do list.
You're not alone. So many women have felt that way. But not for the reasons you think. This book explores why women have actually struggled sexually, helping you to realize where these feelings of brokenness originated. Having this awareness will open you to the possibilities of creating a sex life that works for you.
Does the idea of having a sex life that works for you seem unattainable? When you’ve spent years battling your body image, dismissing sexual advances from your partner, and even praying that not another person touches you today, you’re primed to resist and resent sex. And then it becomes just another thing on your never-ending to-do list.
The stories that I share in Not Tonight, Honey will have you wondering if I wrote this book about you. The insight and wisdom in these pages will encourage you to look at your sex life differently. I provide readers with practical solutions, including how to establish a pleasure practice, aimed at increasing sexual satisfaction, as well as specific tools that will allow you to have a different conversation about sex and pleasure with yourself, your partner, and even your children.
This book will leave you feeling empowered to work towards change and help you realize that you are allowed to ask for what you want inside and outside of the bedroom.