Hi, I’m Courtney Boyer!

sex and relationship coach + author
speaker + somatic retreat curator

I help high-achieving women, men, and couples untangle purity culture, patriarchy, and perfectionism so they can live and love with honesty, pleasure, and real intimacy.

I’ve lived the “everything looks perfect but I’m dying inside” narrative, and I’m here to help you rediscover how to live and love authentically in the ways that work for you.

— Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S.

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Opened

A Memoir by Courtney Boyer

After 17 years of marriage, I realized I was suffocating, forced to shrink myself into the mold of the “perfect wife and mother.”

It felt like I had lost myself, and I was drowning in emotional distance, sexual rejection, and the crushing mental load of performing perfection.

So on our anniversary I asked my husband one terrifying question:

Opened is less a story about non-monogamy and more the story of my journey away from purity culture and patriarchal values, and towards admitting who I was, discovering what I wanted from my life and relationships, and pursuing the joy, love, and liberation that came from speaking up and living authentically.

What if we opened the marriage?

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From Purity to Polyamory

I went from purity culture and the ‘perfect Christian wife’ to opening a 17-year marriage and navigating MonoPoly dynamics on the internet with my husband.

I’m here to tell you:

This is my story, but it doesn’t have to be yours. Every day I help others untangle themselves from the ideas and expectations burned into us by society, and reawaken their wants, needs, and desires wherever that leads.

In the end, I believe it’s all about giving yourself permission to live and love authentically.

We’re building a world where we no longer measure our worth by self-sacrifice or perfection but by reclaiming our freedom and pleasure.

You don’t have to blow up your life to stop betraying yourself.

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Is This You?

“Everything looks perfect but I’m dying inside.”

You’ve checked all the boxes - career, marriage, kids - but feel resentful, exhausted, or numb.

  • You love your partner, but sex feels like a chore, or you’ve nearly given up on wanting anything at all.

  • You were raised to be a good girl or good Christian wife, and now you don’t know where you went.

  • You’ve been performing perfection, constantly spinning plates but forever on the verge of overwhelm.

  • You’re curious about more - more pleasure, more honesty, maybe even non-monogamy - but it feels terrifying to say that out loud.

  • You’re ready to stop performing and start living.

I’m here to tell you: you’re not broken. You’re rediscovering yourself and are a few intentional practices away from the pleasure, connection, and joy you’ve been craving.

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Client Testimonials

  • "Thank you for being there with me during that space-and I’m grateful to be here a year later looking back and acknowledging the growth. Still not perfect (duh and that’s ok). I am so much more happy and content with my job. Also not letting those around me define my worth or my skills."

    —Emily G.

  • “I started working with Courtney after trying traditional therapy. After working with her for the last few months, I can say that she has changed my life at a time I needed it the most. Not only do I feel better about myself, I am a better husband, parent and boss.”

    —Chris L.

  • “I realized something this morning-all the work we have done not only has lifted so much emotional weight off of me but I have also lost 25 pounds since this time last year. You were so right about being able to love and accept here/now to get to where you ultimately want to be. I am certainly not without setbacks but still on a good slow pace forward. I am so thankful that I found you."

    —Marj. C.

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