After 17 years of marriage I realized I was suffocating, forced to shrink myself into the mold of the “perfect wife and mother.” It felt like I had lost myself, and I was drowning in emotional distance, sexual rejection, and the crushing mental load of performing perfection. So on our anniversary I asked my husband one terrifying question:

What if we opened the marriage?

Opened is less a story about non-monogamy and more the story of my journey away from purity culture and patriarchal values, and towards admitting who I was, what I wanted from my life and relationships, and the joy, love, and liberation that came from speaking up and living authentically.

From Purity Culture to Polyamory 

This is my story, but it doesn’t have to be yours. Every day I help others untangle themselves from the ideas and expectations burned into us by society and reawaken their wants, needs, and desires. In the end, it’s all about giving yourself permission to live and love authentically. 

We’re building a world where we no longer measure their worth by self-sacrifice or perfection but by reclaiming their freedom and pleasure.