Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S.

Relationship & Sexuality Expert | Author | Speaker

I’m a therapist-turned relationship coach, author, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authentic self-expression. Drawing on my background in mental health counseling and human sexuality, I bring a rare blend of clinical expertise, cultural insight, and lived experience to conversations about relationships, identity, and women’s well-being.

I have made appearances on Good Night, New York and BBC Radio Live, and my work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, Glamour, where I am frequently sought out for my clear, compassionate perspective on modern relationships, intimacy, and emotional health.

Professional Credentials & Training

My approach is grounded in both rigorous academic study and years of hands-on clinical and coaching experience.

  • M.Ed. in Human Sexuality

  • M.S. in Mental Health Counseling

  • Certified Life Coach

  • Certified Sexuality Educator & Facilitator

  • Post-Graduate Training in:

    • Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)

    • EMDR

    • NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

    • Mental & Emotional Release (MER)

    • Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)

  • Certified Level 2 Reiki Practitioner

I integrate evidence-based psychology with somatic, relational, and mind-body approaches, allowing me to meet clients and audiences at the intersection of science, embodiment, and real life.

A Personal Turning Point That Shapes Her Work

My professional mission is inseparable from my own lived experience.

“My turning point came when I realized that being ‘good’ was costing me my aliveness.”

For years, I did everything right: earning advanced degrees, following the rules, building a life that looked successful and secure from the outside. As a therapist and wife, I was fluent in caretaking, self-sacrifice, and keeping the peace. What I wasn’t fluent in was desire. My own voice, needs, and embodied truth.

That quiet erosion showed up most clearly in my relationships and sexuality, where disconnection and shame replaced curiosity and pleasure. This experience now informs my work with others who feel accomplished on paper but disconnected in their bodies, relationships, and inner lives.

Speaking & Media Topics

I am available for interviews and speaking engagements on topics including:

  • Female desire, shame, and sexual agency

  • The emotional cost of “being good” and over-functioning

  • Modern relationships (including non-monogamy and polyamory), intimacy, and communication

  • Mental health, embodiment, and identity

  • Burnout, boundaries, and relational authenticity

  • Healing from purity culture and religious trauma

About Courtney (Personal)

I live in Germany with my husband, three teenagers, and dog. When I am not writing or coaching, I can be found traveling, reading, chasing joy, savoring excellent coffee, and engaging in deep conversation. I consider myself perpetually learning, unlearning, and writing the next chapter of my story.