The Books That Help Women Come Home to Themselves
Two powerful works-one memoir, one guide-created to help women reclaim their stories, their desires, and their truth.
For nearly twenty years, I’ve supported women who quietly ask themselves:
“Am I broken?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Where did I go?”
Across ages, backgrounds, religions, and relationship structures, I’ve learned one universal truth:
Your story shapes everything-your intimacy, your desire, your relationships, and your sense of self.
Both of my books were written to help women understand and reclaim that story.
Opened
A Memoir About Unbecoming, Awakening, and Finally Choosing Yourself
Opened is the true story of what happens when a woman raised in purity culture, trained to be agreeable and self-sacrificing, and conditioned to dim her light begins to ask a single question:
“What would happen if I finally told myself the truth?”
Across these pages, I share:
Growing up in purity culture and patriarchal religious messaging
A marriage strained by emotional distance, sexual rejection, and the crushing mental load
The unraveling of identity as a “good Christian wife”
The destabilizing process of spiritual deconstruction
The question that changed everything: “What if we opened the marriage?”
The unexpected discovery that I am polyamorous
A psychedelic journey that cracked open my inner world
The love, grief, awakening, and liberation that followed
This memoir is intimate, raw, and real. It’s not about learning how to open a marriage- it’s about learning how to open yourself.
Not Tonight, Honey
Why Women Actually Don’t Want Sex And What We Can Do About It
While Opened shares my personal story, Not Tonight, Honey helps women understand their own.
This book reveals the real reasons women struggle with desire — and why those reasons aren’t personal failings, but layered messages from culture, religion, trauma, emotional labor, and disconnection.
Inside, you’ll learn:
Why women lose their desire (it’s not what you think)
How shame, purity culture, and trauma shape intimacy
How emotional labor and mental load crush sexual energy
Why most women crave connection, not just sex
How to rebuild trust with your body
How to create a “pleasure practice”
How to communicate needs inside your relationship
Not Tonight, Honey gives women permission to understand themselves-and to build a sex life (and a relationship) that actually supports them.
Two Books. One Mission.
To help women shed shame that never belonged to them.
To reconnect them with their bodies and desires.
To guide them back home-to themselves.
Whether through memoir or practical guidance, Opened and Not Tonight, Honey invite readers into deeper truth, healing, and liberation.